1st July 2019 Speaker: Caroline Loo
· What is it?
· What are the triggers?
· What are the types of grief?
· How can you function with grief?
What losses trigger grief?
What happens to your identity in grief?
You have to figure out who you are in a new situation and learn to live with it. You need to learn what that new identity is. Even with good change, the reality of the change can trigger grief. For example, change to retirement, youngest child starts school.
Types of grief
Grief can be from death or a life transition. It is something that is final. For example, you are moving to a new place to live. It is change that stays with you all your life.
This is with you all your life and you face it each day. For example, dementia in families.
Living loss is another name for chronic sorrow. When you get a diagnosis, this can trigger an emotional part and you have to make adaptations in living daily with it, the loss impacts you everyday. Getting a diagnosis means you want to know and you want to get to know what it is.
Living losses are not always evident which means it is hard to live with.
What you can do about it
How do we shine the light on the positive
After developing the new normal and your new identity not everything needs to come from the past. Trust your inner voice, check it out with someone first. It's okay to morph and change. Connect with like minded people. Connecting with like minded people refuels us.
Stress is important. Too much stress is not great though. Living with lot of change is stressful and we need to flush out the adrenaline. Be aware of your fluid and food intake, drink lots of water.
Get on and do it
Looking after yourself
Control of your dyslexia and your response to being dyslexic.
We have to own this.
People mime how we respond.
Owning it and how we present it makes a difference
Advocate for yourself
Living loss is real and you are allowed to feel it.